POLYGAMY 301 - the Joyce Allen Rebuttal

Hotep to all of my REAL PEEPO out there & before I started this series of SOMETHING WE GOTTA TALK ABOUT, I just had to say that the WOMEN would LUV this SHIT & the MEN would HATE it! WE got the net buzzin as the BW KNOWS what time it is as if she could control DESTINY. She will continue to be NEUROTIC tryin to keep a MAN when she knows that he is OUTNUMBERED with plenty of young ladies turnin 21 EVERYDAY in COMPARISON which this article touches onna SURFACE LEVEL. Well, BW who LOVE PERSPECTIVE won't LUV this one but I tell y'all all the time that this izza COMMUNITY FORUM. So as to give my GREAT FRIEND Joyce Allen the floor, I won't GO too deep but I will REBUT her REBUTTAL inna few days to give y'all LADIES room to stew. Oh.......other REBUTTALS are comin & I welcome them. Whatever you feel about ME is gonna come out without FEAR as WE go into these next 556 days. Joyce....................................TAKE IT AWAY!


Before this discussion begins, let me just say this on the front end so NO one will misunderstand my feelings about our Black Men. I think they are the most Talented, Creative, Intelligence, Spiritual, Sexiest, Strong, Protective, Caring, Handsome, Loving, and Fearless men that were placed on this earth. With that being said……….




The question is Do Black Men use Polygamy as a form of being a so call Player (Playa)? Do they really understand or care about the history? Let me take you back for a quick review…..

In the old days of Africa’s glory, the women considered herself nothing without a man to defend her and a man was nothing without a woman and a family to defend. At this time polygamy was generally practiced throughout most of the world as a result of the Black Man’s cultural influence all around the globe. Polygamy was adopted by Black Women to ensure that every woman in the society had access to a man whose primary role was Protector, Guide, Provider and Keeper of the Realm.



In these ancient African societies women were held in the highest honor and respect, the female entity was revered and oft-times, she was worshipped as the Great Mother, Nourisher and Sustainer of life, the source of all terrestrial inspiration and the maintainer of revitalized life. This was the usual way of life in those wonderful days when the Black Man dominated the earth with widespread love, respect and affection. This was consistently demonstrated by the Black Man to the Black Woman.



TODAY Black men see this as a way to sleep with as many women as possible without any of the responsibility. What about the overall respect…. he gives you none. What about making sure there is food on the table or better yet making sure there is a table…he can’t because he has no job and waiting for you to come home from work to cook….Does this sound like Polygamy? NO, that sounds like a Playa to me…



If you understand the meaning you understand the true purpose behind Polygamy…but our Black men do not understand that you can’t just do what it takes to make a child but be able to step up to the plate and take on the responsibilities of raising that child like a Black man and not like a Playa. If you understood the true meaning, no one would have to take you to court to make you care for your child/children. More times than not, the woman is left alone to raise that child or children. Getting your jollies off has nothing to do with Polygamy.



The one and only argument I have heard for Polygamy is that there aren’t enough Black men to go around making sure that we don’t disappear from this earth….Yeah right. You aren’t looking out for our well-being as a People, but only your well-being as Playa. Stop using this for your own get over, stop trying to talk the talk and not being able to walk it as well.



How many Black men tell woman one about woman two and woman two about woman three….. If this was a true Polygamous relationship and not a Playa relationship these women would know about each other and understand about the male role as well as the role of the woman.



Black men stop using the word POLYGAMY as a way to use Black women. If you can’t do ALL aspects and understand fully what it takes to live that life style, then be Man enough to walk away from it……..



Submitted by:

Joyce Allen





Joyce Allen is a teacher, social activist & a contributing writer to this site here & don't think that if I disagree with her that I won't RESPECT her. As such, the Blak Smith humbly asks for you & yours to send in those DONATIONS as payment is due on this blog before July. Whether you hate it or love it, I wish EVERYONE happiness & that WE ALL reach the Cosmic Party. Please send a minimum of $5 & $20 gets my e-book, I ain't Perfect but take it from Me when it comes out SOON. Those who hear the call can contact me at bennyblacko@yahoo.com or get at me on FaceBook at Blak Smith (Blak Smiff). Peace & let's KILL this POISON that keeps US APART!